Tag: spiritual bypassing

“A Day Wasted on Others is not Wasted on Oneself” –Charles Dickens #empathy #globalmindset

On By Alethea KehasIn Reflections8 Comments
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I am struggling with people who are choosing to thrive in a state of self proclaimed joy. Please allow me to explain why. I have nothing against joy, in fact, joy is the state of being that deserves to be grown and nurtured. But here is the caveat: I don’t believe joy can exist in singularity. I believe joy is meant to be shared. And when joy singularly exists in a bubble of protection against the suffering around us, it is by definition a selfish state of being.

In the mystery schools we are taught that each individual is an aspect of the whole. That we come from a place of unity to understand division before we return again to the state of unity. This concept threads through ancient philosophy and spiritual texts. It breaks down the laws of hierarchy and the problematic separatist notions of “other” to remind us that at our essence we are more alike than we are different. Each body is created from the same basic components. Each soul arises from the same source.

There are many people in the diverse body of spiritual fields who have chosen to elevate themselves beyond unity consciousness for personal protection and/or gain. Consider the hierarchical structure of organized religion. Consider the spiritual “teacher” who chooses to place the self above the student. Consider also those who choose to bypass global trauma and suffering so that they can reside in their bubbles of “joy.”

Yesterday, I found myself in a state of agitation when talking with one of those people. She is a good friend of mine. She is a good person, in essence, yet she has chosen to distance herself from the suffering of others so that she can focus on growing her own abundance and joy. She is okay with this, but I am not. Maybe I should be, but I’m not.

As I stated at that beginning of this post, I am not opposed to personal joy. In fact, I believe it is each of our birthrights. But to exist in a state of joy when those around you are suffering not only places you in a state of chosen immunity, it negates the law of unity. It creates a chosen system of hierarchy and otherness that is not sustainable for the wellbeing of all.

Can we truly thrive when others are suffering? In order to sustain her bubble of joy, my friend has chosen to stay uniformed about current events. She has chosen to cut herself off from the crises occurring elsewhere because for now she is in a place of safety and security. There is a popular belief based on the “law of attraction” that what we choose to create becomes our reality. Many people interpret this law in a self-focused manner, believing that individually we create our own reality. Reality, though, is a process of co-creation.

Self-imposed immunity is not sustainable. Eventually the bubble of self-created joy begins to dissolve. Those of us existing in this privileged state (for it is a privileged state that is simply not attainable for those subjected to discrimination) will eventually find ourselves affected by the suffering around us. Complete isolation is not sustainable in a global community. Eventually the effects of trying to exist in a state of separation catch up with us. We may discover that we have been unintentionally harming our children, and thus ourselves. We may discover that we can no longer afford luxuries because those who provide them for us can no longer do so. And, eventually we may find that there is no longer anyone around to elevate us into a place of “joy” because of dissolution of our followers through disillusion.

We must not forget that a singular life is only possible because of the lives that exists around it in support. Therefore, joy, by definition, is not meant to be harbored by one, but to be spread through all.

Spiritual Bypassing and Working with the “Light” #spiritualbypassing #lightworkers

On By Alethea KehasIn Reflections, Warriors of Light11 Comments
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Once again, like many others, I am feeling deeply bothered by the state of the world in which we all live. Today I am thinking of the words of Louis Armstrong and his beautiful lyrical antidote to a troubled world. A world that, more than fifty years later, feels, well, no less-troubled.

Where have we gone wrong? How do we make right?

We still cling to our violence like an infant clings to his “blankie.” We are hesitant to let go. The lust for power and greed continually supersedes our common good. We are a broken beautiful world trying to exists in the extremes of violence (mankind) and beauty (nature).

I use the world “mankind,” because let us be clear that it is the driving force of masculinity, whether it exists in a so-called male of female body, that lends itself towards violent acts. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it often is in our world. The driving force is also the creative force, bringing forth life instead of death, in all its myriad forms.

It is working with the “light” that drives the life force that threads through all of us in its purest form. It is what Christ strived for, and Buddha. It is a quest for a balance and harmony. For the common good of all life.

And here we are stuck in the throes of our extremes. Many of us are struggling to incite change: signing petitions, calling senators, picketing our capital buildings, voting…while knowing it is simply not enough.

I don’t have the answers. I wish I did. I don’t know what it is going to take for us to put aside our accumulated lust for power and find our common ground. I wish I did.

One thing that nags me continuously though, is those we keep silent. Those who pull the card of spirituality without actually doing the real work. The term spiritual bypassing was coined by a psychotherapist named John Welwood to define individuals who use spirituality and its practices as a way of bypassing the real work of healing and changing their lives. Now it is a term used to also include the lives of others.

We see it all the time. It has become a chronic problem. An excuse for either doing nothing, or worse, doing the wrong thing. I am stretching the limits of this term to define all of those who claim to be following the path of the “light,” but refusing to do the real work to support the balance and harmony of life, whether it be within or outside of them.

We see it everywhere, in all of its masked forms. Self-ascribed christians refusing to give up their weapons of death used to murder children. We see it in self-ascribed light-workers refusing to acknowledge their individual and our shared darkness in their need to hold onto the ideal of the “light” they think shines more brightly within them. Their need to feel special superseding the good they proclaim to spread in the world. Instead of digging into fact-based, real-world problems to work towards bringing light to our collective darkness, they add to the darkness by spreading falls theories created by bots and deranged individuals intent of perpetrating the chaos in the world. The irony is almost too much to bear, but bear it they do, with a perverse sense of delight. Otherwise they would not be “special.”

This chronic need to be special and have control over others negates the real work of the light and being a spiritual being, whether you are professed follower of Christ, Buddha, Allah…a pantheon of gods or one God.

A world filled with beings who are striving to be separate. To feel special. To be better. Beings that feast on individual greed and need…with always tip towards chaos.

Our beautiful world of “skies of blue,” and “fields of green,” is raging. Fires burn in lands turned arid by mankind’s greed. Fires burn from the bullets of guns, destroying life, over and over again, because of mankind’s lust for power and control. And the fires of denial burn in the hearts of those who bypass the real work of life and cling to their sense of otherness.

We cannot live in a wonderful world without doing the real work of nurturing life itself.